View from a Chair

Guest blogger Miriam-

        As I sit here and wait- time passes well. The view is imaginable. Right this moment I see rushing water cascading over rocks, rushing to endless bubbles and crashing into the rivers it meets. Now a sky of a turquoise color with few white clouds, that mirrors into the same color river, long, so long and narrow.

The View isn't presently realistic, it comes from a TV screen in a hospital, but with these wonderful views come the realistic views of this room and corridors. People walking who have heart diseases or who have had heart surgeries. But they are walking. Yesterday there were many people discharged! Other views are nurses walking with their medical info desks, all portable with med information, schedules and whatever is needed to make things better for someones heart, like diet and exercise. I see a scale across the hall but haven't been weighed, and haven't seen anyone weighed. Maybe the concern isn't weight, but education and face to face information and hands on help and getting home with the proper care and atmosphere.

    I'm so very thankful to be where I am and have the children I have who not only care and love me, but are raising their children to care, to have consequences now rather than later, and not understand why they're just getting a consequence when they're fifteen or twelve. I'm so thankful I've been staying with family, so very thankful.  SO many people, old and young who live alone and don't have anyone would be terrified now, and yes, others as well would be terrified. Sure I was scared a day later when told I had to have a certain surgery, but talking a lot with family and both myself and them being honest about it all helps so much.

       Unexpected expectations is hard on people. How often have we said but I didn't know, or I didn't expect. Well If you haven't been in this situation, how would you know? Even if you have been through this situation, or something much worse, its always good to know the truth, the expectations and the rules. Never, ever give up or give in. Never ever quit. You owe it to your self, your family, grandchildren, caregivers and the medical profession.

   The view is one of hope. Hope for a longer and healthier life. That's the best of all views. 👪💝💝💝💝

First Foster Child(adult) Found-But Again....

       A few days ago my daughter found the first foster son who I've been searching for, for such a long time. He actually has, had five accounts on FB. I'm not sure where or how to begin with what I felt when I saw some of his life, what he's joined and the tragedy that hit him hard. He had a baby girl who died and I'm not sure how long after birth as he had a picture of her as a newborn sitting on a table with candles, as a memory of passing on.
        He now has a son about four or five years old and I did see on yet another FB account a daughter about three, Those children are beautiful and the boy looks like C.B.'s twin. But he, he is lost in a world that I can only imagine.
         C is part of  a group, that some may call a cult. I see it as a group of young men and some women, not many who are lost, feel they don't belong to the average society or any society except the one there in. This is what happens when kids feel like they no longer matter. They seek to matter, no matter how. They want to be counted, loved, mattered and have a feeling of being needed. 
           I never would have recognized him if I didn't study his face, as well as looking at his other pages. There is one picture where he is sitting and he states' I feel like I'm going crazy. Deeply sad of course. As I look on his Fb pages I don't see any family connections and then I saw a photo of his sister who lives out of state. Both C and his sister who was a baby at the time and an older brother were all in foster care.
     His brother was a few years older and lived with a family who treated him more like a servant than a child. When I met him along with the father and baby sister, he said he was just going to take it until he was old enough to graduate and get out. He did complain to his caseworker who told him, all kids have chores. I believe that. It's easier than confronting a foster parent who's obnoxious and moving a child. The boy didn't want to move. He liked his school and was involved in football, had friends.
       Well as rough and sad as my first foster son looks, I am still trying to find him, hoping to just talk, learn what happened in between. It's always the in between and what happens prior to foster care that counts.

Sexual Assaults, Men's Perversions, Life in Prison at Least !

       It's about time more women are coming forward. Before I go further, yes, I know women have done it too, and I'm not brushing it aside. I don't care if it's a man or woman who is the abuser, they should equally spend life in prison.
        I've been told by someone close, well if a guy serves time, gets out, then Megan's Law is really unfair because the guy already served his time. By putting him on this list he's being punished all over again-yet he went on to say in his opinion, death would be better because if that happened to any of his kids, he'd want to kill the guy.
          Here's why I feel life in prison and I bet you can guess this before you read my post;that abuser has changed a life or lives forever! So why shouldn't the abuser get the same and worse. If I was in charge, drop him off in the middle of the ocean for fish food, yet I don't want to poison the ocean.
So put them in prison with yellow suits. Yes, of course yellow! These people who sexually abuse others are first cowards and second bullies who threaten and intimidate.

          Now we have a guy, a senator Moore, Roy Moore from Alabama who was recently accused and his precious Christians are standing with him. WHY? Because of proof, because they've known him forever!
          Pedophiles do not molest children, rape others, grope, feel, use porn, sell women and yell hey look at what I'm doing! Smart people are so stupid. How the hell can they even ask for proof and yes I know there are false allegations at times. Look at Tawana Brawley who did what she did because of Al Sharpton, a male in position who took advantage of a kid because he wanted political attention. I wonder if he ever paid his taxes ?

        Remember Chris Hansen who had a show years ago exposing pedophiles ? Yup, fired for cheating on his wife if I remember right. Hes now back on TV, Older and fatter, BUT that doesn't distract from the following: That show exposed men of all ages, all faiths, races and careers.  There were Catholics priests, Rabbi's, Teachers, ministers , coaches, and on and on.
That didn't stop anyone from continuing to molest, rape, and sexually assault!

       Finally too we have so called celebrities that many don't want to believe. "oh how could he do that, he's such a a nice guy". There all nice on the outside, just like a book. People in the position of power don't necessarily have to be bosses, coaches etc. Those pedophiles are also fathers, cousins, brothers, grandparents and spouses who cover up. Why do they cover up?They take the easy way out, they may have to support themselves, embarrassment, disbelief (but they really know) its just easier which makes them worse than the abuser, they colluded, they allowed it to knowingly continue.
        Parents keep talking to your kids, doors stay open, two go to a bathroom in a movie,, keep spaces between others in movies. Overnight trips, sleepovers? Hell NO ! YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT'S IN SOMEONES MIND! Prison for Life, no exceptions!

       

A Jewish Dream

      I know ! A Jewish Dream ? How weird is that? I'm not even Jewish, but who cares.  So here it is: Suddenly I found myself in an apartment or house, couldn't really tell and i Was a teenager again wearing penny loafers which I did wear as a kid, and a long print dress, which I never wore. My hair was shoulder length and more curly at the bottom and I wore bangs. I never had bangs except as a five-year old.

     Well inside this home was gathering of a lot of people, all in their mid twenties to late thirties and me. Someone was missing, the old man. I didn't have any idea who the old man was or his relation to anyone yet. I walked around the people, looking and listening. Everyone was drinking, what they were drinking I couldn't tell. Glasses were clear. It was crowded and so much chatter was going on. Then the old man came in.
       He was so slender, wore a dark suit and shirt. He had a hat on and took it off when he came in. He was stooped over, but not sing a cane or walker. He was shaking his head and nodding, looking about. I went to him and asked why he was gone so long. Hands up he said, look, why would I want to be here? This is family ? We walked and sat at an old wooden table. I asked if he wanted something to eat. He took out another round hat and placed it on his head. He said, no, I cannot what they  have on plates, that every hand gas touched, so unclean.

      He asked me if I had a candle. I went to my room-oow I had a room-took out a candle, matches and gave to the old man. He lit the candle and said a prayer for family, old values and traditions. He took me to the refrigerator and showed me how the food was all scattered and then a hand reached around him grabbing lunch meat off a tray. The old man said, see, unclean. A man standing at the sink came to us and said hello dad, I'm happy you're here. Why said the old man, what is here for me anymore? look at what you have done to our Jewish family, traditions gone, dress gone, values gone, food gone. Have you forgot? The son looked sad, walked to the people in his home and asked everyone to leave. As they trailed out, he returned to his father and said, I'm sorry dad and I woke up as I was walking away in my dream.

Denton & Palant, Brave Cowards, Long Island

           I live out of New York, but am a New Yorker. The crime these two boys and that's what they are, boys committed, could have killed people. Andrew Denton who is 17 from East Meadow and Jacob Palant, 19, of  Syosset decided it would be fun to throw bricks at cars from an overpass above the Meadow brook state parkway in Uniondale on December 26, 2015.
     Two people were sent to the hospital with so-called minor injuries. Injuries do not always show immediately !
      What I want to know is WHY?  Yes, I realize crime goes on all the time and many are thrill seekers, like I think these two selfish, uncaring, unfeeling boys are. What if a family member happened to be in one of the cars and the car crashes, killing a family member of one of those boys?
   Here's my solution to crimes like these and let  kids know now: YOU will be joining the Military once you leave juvie for at least two years. This is for females as well, no reason not to.

St. JUDES Childrens Hospital Challenge !

     I have not been personally touched by St. Judes in a way that families are who bring their children there, and don't know anyone who has. But this makes it no less urgent.
    When I learned many years ago that St. Jude does not charge for  medical care, housing , travel or food, I knew that would always be my main charity. St. Jude started many years ago, 1962, at a  time when only twenty percent of children survived, now it's eighty percent. On average 94,900 children are treated yearly.
   
      How much do we spend on lottery tickets, cigarettes, latte? Magazines are so expensive and all of our personal hobbies and habits. We worry about fancy sneakers, brand name clothes, new cars, trips and things that would mean nothing if we lost a child. What if this was your child?
     I donate often, but now realize I got off track, so I will make sure to send a check monthly, on my birthday. They are asking for 19. a month. NINETEEN ! I know many cannot afford that, but many more can. People go to bars, have gym memberships, take cruises,  buy high priced furniture, and buy all kinds of lessons for their children, themselves, karate, music, art and more. Restaurants are filled with people eating out. Skip that once a month and send to St. Jude-I am.
    Maybe in a family members name,donate 19.00 monthly. please help St. Jude, a partner in hope.

By the way, I bought power ball tickets and I hope I win, if only to give half to St. Jude. After all, who needs that much money when it will benefit the lives of so many children. We have great doctors and research scientists.. Let's help them help our children.

Me? In a ONSIE? Who knew...Those Two

        After a few hectic days I was invited to go to my daughters' and her boyfriends' home for Thanksgiving and stay over. Just going down there, the ride and the peace was wonderful but arriving, that was a whole new world. The welcomed feeling made me feel right at home. Wafting from the kitchen were smells of turkey, homemade stuffing and those strings beans, wow. Oh, don't let me forget the mashed potatoes ! I ate too much but not enough. I'm sure you understand that. A feeling of being satisfied hit me well before we sat down to eat. It was the atmosphere, the family, joking all around, talking about things you know only can be kept with family, a glass of wine and a dog. A very special dog name Virgil. He's an English Bulldog who is so lovable that I wouldn't care what I was wearing. I just enjoyed him, that face, the love he offers.
            Thanksgiving over all too soon, I knew another bite would not pass between my lips, but then my daughter brought in some mini cannoli's but made in tiny, tiny  pie shells like a with chocolate chips on top. Delicious, scrumptious! I wanted to savor and honestly took my time to taste and not just slide down my throat. The three of us sat down to relax watching a marathon of Blue Bloods. Soon after her boyfriend leaves, comes back downstairs with a onsie on, a star wars theme,or batman? It had a cape on it. This guys is not just smart and funny, but sweet and always himself. Then my daughter says, oh yeah mom, I have one for you too. Wrinkling my brow I think she has to be kidding! I know she would not mind a one piece anything to fit me. Oh Lord-she did. So there she was in her Princess Leia Onsie and mine was a Koala Bear, gray and white. Into the tiny bathroom, not meant for changing, I slipped jeans off and a onsie on. I bust out laughing before I even had it near me.
      Edging it on, up, buttoning buttons and putting the hood/hat on with ears attached, it fit !!! Oh CRAP! They weren't kidding and to top it off, I really had fun with it and didn't mind a few pictures even feeling comfortable. I have never liked picture taking, even as a kid. We sat down all three, relaxed in our onsie's. Oh it was so warm and comfy. I had a great time ! Great family, atmosphere and Virgil cuddling up at times. Couldn't have been better:) Thank you J&D...I love you both.

Obama, Holder, White male Gunned down by 3 Black bored teens

      Another story of kids who were bored and intended to hold up someone, rather than play basketball.
A white male who usually walks his dog with his 13 year old daughter decided to take the dog out and let his daughter stay home. As the three bored black teens approached him, they shot him one in the leg. He put his hands up, asked not to shoot him again. They did, He died. Police have two in custody a 14 year old whose name won't be released and fifteen year old Brandon Smith. TYFINE HAmilton is still at large. As far as protecting a 14 year old who is with those same type of kids? Why is his name being held? He was there. So tired of protecting kids who commit these crimes and getting off because they are kids. THEY FREAKING KNOW right from wrong !!!

    The man who died? His name is  James Patrick Stuhlman. So Obama and buddy Eric Holder, where are you now, again. Maybe you two and your cronies, all of them, from Hillary Clinton, buddy boy Billy and congress would serve Kenya better because we, the United States of America DO NOT !

 Soon, not soon enough, we will have a real American president who will stand up for everyone, race creed and religion! Now, Obama, why don't you just go out the back door, the way you came in and go home.

PCXpert in York New Salem Pa.

       Need help, advice, lessons, yes they do all of that and more. I was pleasantly surprised at the services they offered especially lessons! How many computer repair companies offer lessons ? I know, I know, price, well that's something you have to talk to them about and budget for,maybe.  We all have a different set of priorities so if you need lessons and don't want to travel far, don't want to sit in a classroom, don't want to look for a parking place, won't be distracted by a group of classmates, odors, and have to be there the same time each day, then this is for you.
      I am not related, if I was, boy would I be lucky. Anyway not to tear down another business,(no names) but I called someone else locally who wanted sixty bucks to look at it, then tell you what's wrong and charge accordingly. Also he mentioned the turn around time was one to two weeks. Sure that can mean they are very busy because they re very good, or it can mean something else. They might be just as good, I don't honestly know. However I do like the fact that when I walked in to PCXpert, one of the guys, Brian or Bryan, set my computer up, knew instantly it was a virus. He gave me a price and I said okay.
     Early the following week Shawn delivered my computer, set it up and talked with me, to me, about this n' that concerns with my computer, such as I need a cable for my screen as it goes off and on. Today we were on the phone as he was helping me with an issue I had and I think now it has a lot to do with AOL.
       PCXpert sells computers, sells new and refurbished computers and laptops.  Seriously people, support local businesses-if they are good in what they do, honest people and talk to you like your business matters, because that is exactly how I have been treated at PCXpert.
   They are located on Main street in York New Salem close to Twin Pines and Rutter's. These are young men, not kids, and have families like you and I. They know their business is their livelihood  and this community should check them out as they check out your computer. They are up to speed  in the world of technology, so if it's speed you want, PCXpert is the place for your printer, computer, laptop and knowledge. Take a class, learn a little more and hey, you can even give a gift certificate to someone for a class/lesson. Now that I mentioned that, I don't know personally that they give gift certificates, but I'm sure they can work that out with you. By the way, if they repaired this computer, they can repair yours.
   Their number is 717 792 0005
 Check out their website-you can even have repairs done without leaving home !
        www.PCXpert.com  (not com)
  

Goofy's Rt. 116 York Pa.

       Some time ago I friend told me about Goofy's, only that "she heard" that Goofy's has the best burgers in town or anywhere around here. I should have gone then, because my very first visit tonight wasn't what I expected. Exhausted, paint stained body and hungry all I wanted was that great burger.
The first waitress had a tattoo on her left arm and approached me asking who was first, me or the table next to me. I told her the other party. I had two boys with me. They were more patient than I was tonight as I watched another waitress go right to a couple, man and woman who just arrived within  three minutes of the waitress coming over and getting drinks and then taking their orders. SO here I was, just a woman with two kids being ignored for too long, but still I waited. I waited only because it would take to long to go elsewhere, order and wait again.
     Finally she comes over and takes our orders. Pleasant enough she smiles at the boys, myself and returns some time later with our food. Then brought the mozzarella sticks because as she explained the were burned with cheese all over the fryer-all that is understandable. I was fine-until I bit into that supposedly great burger.
      I ordered it cooked medium. It came back well-done. I didn't complain. What's the use. Hungry and now disappointed I ate all of it just so I could leave as soon as possible. This bar/Restaurant is a family type in a sense but really, it's made for hard working every day people. It has a strange sense of home. I felt like that when I sat down so I could see why the locals liked it, and yes I too am now a local, have been for too many years. Many bikers patronize Goofys. I guess when you're drinking you can't taste quality. Yet I have to add,  as well done as my burger was, it wasn't awful. I ordered a mushroom Swiss and with lettuce and tomato it was juicy and a little tasty, but fat from Great. More like the kind you'd have with a beer.
      I have to say on a positive note the mozzarella sticks were delicious with just a right hint of spice.  Yet on another note there was a baby in a carrier/seat about seven month old with older people. I'd guess grandparents. The music was rocking to a beat like a thump, thump, loud and wrong for a bas delicate ears. How selfish it was of those adults to bring a baby into that noisy atmosphere, and as far as Goofy's goes, they should have a sign: Children under five or seven, something like that "not allowed"! For me on a scale of one to ten, Goofy gets a three. I was looking for that forever great bar restaurant, but I know Goofys isn't the place. The music too was wrong for even my age boys at twelve and sixteen. Goofy's I wonder what happened to that great burger I was told about. Mine tasted like a frozen patty.

Palumbo's Pizza, Salad's & Subs

             Palumbos' is more than just a pizza place, it's culture in every sense of the word. Palumbos' is family, quality and they care about people who come in to their place of business. Their food is an essence, a memory not so easily forgotten. Palumbos' has an atmosphere of family for everyone.
          I have to speak of their menu which as of tonight I have just seen for  a first time in a couple of months. Due to my time, schedules and snow I have been unable to stop in. However I do stop in often as possible and am not close by. Tonight I only ordered a large pizza, but then decided to also have a chef salad. It was out of this world! With vinegar and oil it was perfecto. Half way through I ordered another salad to go.
        In closing I have to say if I were to compare Palumbos' with any local pizza place in the Spring Grove area, well their is no comparison. One local pizza place makes soggy crust and overflows with oil in Spring Grove, nice people, local but somehow over the years they lost the cultural piece that made their pizza what it once was.
       Palumbos' is located on rt 30 heading west and sits right next to a golf course and across the street from a quarry. Don't miss a better slice of life, which is the same as saying, Don't miss Palumbos' !  A Memory not forgotten.

He was only 32 !

    I know, what about old people, so take from this what you can and use it.
This morning I notice a picture of a young man. He was 32, jumped off his home in Brooklyn NY. But he was just thirty- two !  The possibility of anyone doing anything for him is slim at the time, but who knows. His family did say he was having a hard time again lately.
   If someone wants to help a person with depression do this:

• Give them your phone number
• buy them a headset
• talk to them about doctors & meds ( have they missed doses? )
• see if they have family, family that is still family
• ask about hobbies and give
• see what you can do or others, like buy a months of bus passes
• check out a local Mental Health Association
• find out if they go to church
• ask about education, books, vacations, journals, music
• see if they like to garden and get a few garden boxes/containers
•  ask if they are allowed to have a pet if they rent
• be a friend

We lose too many young people because of mental health problems, loneliness, drug and alcohol abuses and I know we all do our best . As adults many will do as they're going to do anyway, so do what you can do.Maybe one day you will be that one person to change a life.

I looked into The Mirrow...a poem

I looked into The Mirror

 

I looked into the mirror

And there I saw your face

It was plain as day could be

I wasn’t in your place

I saw your face in my view

Filled with so much pain

Your heart was still inside of me

Your loss all in vain

I looked into my mirror

and saw you standing there

agony inside you

your child no longer here

Why are you I my mirror

Except to remind me so

The ache you feel inside of you

Won’t ever let you go.

 

N. Costa

 

It Only Takes You

       How much we have or how little we have, we have a lot if someone loves us, if everyone has reasonably good health and if you haven't recently lost someone, then you and I have a lot.  But if any of these things affect you or someone you know, then what do you do? What?
       I don't know what really but I do know those who have a real serious faith do much better than those who don't. How do we believe someone is in heaven when they didn't lead a heavenly life you might ask...well, maybe because they had a heavenly heart. Only God really knows.
     Right now I know a man who cares for his uncle's needs in many ways and the uncle is in his eighties. This man is fighting cancer, yet he runs, walks, golfs and who knows what more he's doing. The nephews is so proud of his uncle. That's also faith. They just never quit.
        Now there are hungry people, and people who simply need a friend. Just be careful how you approach them. People have pride and don't like charity. Yes, I know pride goeth before the fall. Haven't we all tripped one time or another? Still there are also people who are lonely, lonely in their own family and those who are so wealthy they become cold hearted and sometimes the poor are as bad, due to pride, but find a way and not because it's a holiday, but because we are human.
        Know too that many people do not have any religious affiliation at all, don't believe in God at all or a higher power. It takes one moment of friendship,one small miracle, one birth, one saved life to show that miracles to come. That works the opposite when someone dies especially a young person. How do you tell a mom or dad and more that there is a purpose to this, much less God had a hand in it? You don't. You let them grieve and talk out as they need to, say what they feel and be there, for  a very long time.
          Remember if someone loves you, even if they're not physically close you have more than many, so be more than many to just one person, any day of the year. Here's to you Victoria and Samantha !
 

Sounds of Love

       Okay I'll put this out there right now. I am not talking about sex. Many confuse the two and yes, both are nice, but the sounds of love are immeasurable.
I'll start with a baby's first cry at birth. In that moment the parent or parents who already have a love for the not yet born child, now have a faster tempo to their heart beats. This is a child created with love and the proof of that love is the sound of his or her cry. That continues through the baby years, walking and falling. Mom  or dad catching him, picking him up and nuzzling him, telling their baby, aw, it's okay with little bitty kisses all over. Remember?
       It's reversed too as a mom or dad picks up their child just to hold them. That childs' little fingers crawl around mom's neck and they make some inaudible sound, the sound of love.
     Besides babies of course we have those sounds when we see a car we love...aah, a vacation, but better than that, a memory. Best of all to me are the unheard sounds. I know, an oxymoron. So? Did you ever watch an old couple. One pats the others hand. Words aren't needed. A kid in trouble looks at mom or dad and the look they get back is one of love, one of, don't worry, we love you and we can fix it, we're here with you and for you.
     Have you been to a hospital when someone is in a coma. The people that go in and out of that room are there for reasons including love. Some for friendship, some because they're just nosy, some to pray, and some to sit and read, out of love for another human being, plain and simple. A mom and dad, siblings sometimes just sit and wait, the biggest unheard sound of love I know. Next time you're out and about, look around you for the sounds of love unheard but felt very deeply.

What Commodity is Love ?

       We've heard it said that certain things are a precious commodity. But the most of those would be love. I do feel love is a commodity, real, deep, true and loyal love is a precious commodity as is the love you have for your children, spouses, best friends, grandchildren and life long crushes.
       But love is also a dangerous commodity and that I heard from some movie. It took me a few hours to think that through, but I agree. Loving allows hurt, revenge, termination of affections, one-sided views, distortion and perceptions not meant and most of all, a cold departure, maybe never to be repaired. The longer that departure, distance, lack of communication goes on, it simply becomes a way of life and a way acceptable because of persuasion, because of jealousy and because of preference and pride.
       Preference? Definitely. Just look at photos and see who is in more photos, how holidays are shared and with whom, how much more time is spent with others and it just becomes easier and love becomes,  that dangerous commodity that now belongs no longer to you but to others. So you have lost. Do you try again? I don't know. How much can you emotionally afford to keep on losing?

Hardway or The Highway

       At what point does it hit you that your family is just freeloading? Well this isn't just about that but when I saw how these freaking freeloaders think they're entitled to lay claim to other peoples homes while they're away or a home is empty....well what kind of bull---- is that?
      They claim religion, entitlement, homesteading ! Send in Judge Judy !!!
These are not people who are taking advantage of an opportunity like you and I would, these are just people who take. When you and I see an opportunity, we usually pay in some way. These free loaders wants us to pay !
      Look at people who are homeless but have cell phones. I've seen them! One guy sat and just smiled as he asked for money while he was on the phone. If I had the nerve I would have leaned over and taken some of that donated money to send to St. Judes. These people are parasites. So glad I heard that word again because that's all they are.
      Let the government dress them up and send them to Afghanistan. They won't be homeless anymore and maybe become human. Okay get off your high horse, I'm not talking about the true homeless, people who really suffer, people who feel shame about losing their lives to the streets, shelters, cars and where the economy has destroyed families.
     Those poor people deserve a helping hand, because they at one time and maybe are still trying to live like decent people. Now take a look at your own family. Do you have a brother or sister who just hangs out all the time, finally moves in, no job, watches TV all day, eats everything is sight, doesn't help around the house or outside. Here is my advice:
      Before you address them, make sure you can go through with it. Make a list of what they have to do in order to live free in your home if you don't want your blood pressure to go up including getting a job and have a timetable to move. Also find out about shelters in your areas or other areas. Be prepared!
     After you talk to your advantage taking person and give a time limit too, and they do nothing, pack them up and drive them to a shelter. Get ready to have your locks changed. They won't leave? Check the law. You might have to give a legal eviction notice. See what you get for helping.
         Sorry about that. I do believe in helping all you can, but not in others helping themselves while you work, cook, take care of the kids, pay bills and do what most good people do. So make it, the hard way or the highway. Then you'll have peace.Maggieshelpcenter.com

Pedophiles in Church ?

      It's all we hear at this time of electing a new pope. In the end, interviews each and every time hit the church where it hurts, child molestation.  Yes we all have a right to know what the church will do if there is a next time a child is molested. Will they hide the pedophile by transferring him or her to save face as they have done in the past, or will they drop him or her like they deserve. I think the latter, well at least I hope so.
      In an interview this morning the Sunday Morning show, interviewed new priests and asked about marriage. One guy was honest enough to answer, yes, I would marry if it was offered. Another guy had that effeminate lisp that many of us know to be possibly gay.
     What many forget is everyone is entitled to what ever career they choose and are fitted to be. to may focus on the fact that so many pedophiles were found to hide in the Catholic Church and yes, I believe we should never close an eye to those possibilities again. Being Gay doesn't mean you're a pedophile or the fact that you may want to marry, that you'll take your frustrations out on kids. It just means, you might be gay and or want to marry.
     Pedophiles hide out in every area of our lives, schools, Synagogues, Lutheran churches, on the board of some high and might committee and in our own homes, our own fathers and brothers and sometimes mothers. Who hides them the most? Their spouses. There is always suspicion, but rarely confrontation
     Give this new Pope a chance, but keep your eyes on your kids always. Your best friend? Do you really know what's in his mind?
 

Where's Gloria Z? Brooklyn NY

      Maybe this isn't the right way to go about it, but it can't hurt. As time leaves us quickly, I think of old friends and times long ago. I grew up on a cobblestoned street in Bay Ridge Brooklyn and my friends were not the "usual." For what ever reason I attracted and was attracted to kids and adults who many didn't bother with.
       My first, special friend was Gloria Zaugg. She was known then as a deaf mute, and was a few years older than I was, but that never mattered. I enjoyed communicating , playing dolls and just hanging out with Gloria. I hated when people called her, the dummy. I hated them. To this day I don't understand why people are deliberatley mean to one another except as life teaches us, it makes them feel good.
      But Gloria was very good with mouthing her words and you knew you were cursed out when she started. Her best was calling people , Bastards. That she said almost clear. People would laugh when she spoke those words. I would stop and wonder why or how she could say that but not other, regular words. As our friendship grew, I learned she could say in her way, other words, but not ever enough to change the fact that she was still deaf and mute.
     Gloria was built like a Scandanavian Viking. She was very strong and loved to run and throw a ball. We had so much fun. If it was playing dolls or making faces at boys, we knew we had a special friendship.
      The time came when my family moved and she and I lost touch. I heard a few years later she married and had a baby, but you know as is natural, people wonder what happend to those long lost friends, if their life was as good as yours, or better, maybe worse. All I would like to know is, was she happy. If you know about Gloria, please let me know at Norwegianplaid@aol.com
Thanks
P.S. Sometimes friends are better than family

Eggs, A Teen saves Family! What a kid !

       Now this is what's right about some kids. You know what I mean. We find fault with society concerning all of the rights of kids, parental priorities concerning how to need a certain amount of money because of things, or wanting those things. Yes I know too, many times it is necessary for two parents to work, and in this family it wasn't any different.

    The father worked for a utility company and the mother worked as a pharmacist while the teen aged daughter went to school. This story was on the Sunday Morning show.

    One day mom found herself sick, struggling to walk, not able to feed herself, dress herself and more. She had Multiple Sclerosis and spent all of her time laying down on the sofa and ended up in a nursing home. The parents decided not to tell their young teen what was wrong, yet she knew and she also knew things were getting tough. This kid decided to do something about it. What a kid!

    She went to her grandmother who gave her a loan. This young girl worked out all of the numbers, costs to do what she wanted to do, and so she bought chickens. Yes, she started an EGG BUSINESS ! Last year she made 15,000. which saved the home and family. Mom is back home and much better. Dad gives his daughter all the credit for, as he stated, "keeping the wolves away from the door."
   This teen is now saving for college as the help isn't any longer needed. Yet she says, it's there for mom and dad if they do need it. Now this is a kid with values. What would your child do in the same situation?