He Doesn't Weigh an Inch

       Have you ever heard that expression? I haven't. As a neighbor of my daughters' came over to see us the other day, she sat and drank coffee and listened and watched my grandson play. We chatted about all kinds of things. This lady and her husband have become another set of grandparents and love this little guy to pieces.
        His love is returned as he often tells them he loves them, gives hugs and waves. He also loves to watch the house they live in as the garage door opens and closes. He's like a monitor, or the neighborhood watch, all in one little package. If the man gets in his car to run an errand, baby boy comes dashing back to the table or living room, yelling, car! car! When the man returns home and opens the garage door he yells door! door!
         Well as his new grandma finished her coffee watching this little bundle of happiness lift something, she just grinned and said, he doesn't even weigh an inch does he? That was the first time I ever heard that expression, maybe the last unless Grandma says it again. I love it and her relation to this baby of, unexpected expectations.

Sexual Assaults, Men's Perversions, Life in Prison at Least !

       It's about time more women are coming forward. Before I go further, yes, I know women have done it too, and I'm not brushing it aside. I don't care if it's a man or woman who is the abuser, they should equally spend life in prison.
        I've been told by someone close, well if a guy serves time, gets out, then Megan's Law is really unfair because the guy already served his time. By putting him on this list he's being punished all over again-yet he went on to say in his opinion, death would be better because if that happened to any of his kids, he'd want to kill the guy.
          Here's why I feel life in prison and I bet you can guess this before you read my post;that abuser has changed a life or lives forever! So why shouldn't the abuser get the same and worse. If I was in charge, drop him off in the middle of the ocean for fish food, yet I don't want to poison the ocean.
So put them in prison with yellow suits. Yes, of course yellow! These people who sexually abuse others are first cowards and second bullies who threaten and intimidate.

          Now we have a guy, a senator Moore, Roy Moore from Alabama who was recently accused and his precious Christians are standing with him. WHY? Because of proof, because they've known him forever!
          Pedophiles do not molest children, rape others, grope, feel, use porn, sell women and yell hey look at what I'm doing! Smart people are so stupid. How the hell can they even ask for proof and yes I know there are false allegations at times. Look at Tawana Brawley who did what she did because of Al Sharpton, a male in position who took advantage of a kid because he wanted political attention. I wonder if he ever paid his taxes ?

        Remember Chris Hansen who had a show years ago exposing pedophiles ? Yup, fired for cheating on his wife if I remember right. Hes now back on TV, Older and fatter, BUT that doesn't distract from the following: That show exposed men of all ages, all faiths, races and careers.  There were Catholics priests, Rabbi's, Teachers, ministers , coaches, and on and on.
That didn't stop anyone from continuing to molest, rape, and sexually assault!

       Finally too we have so called celebrities that many don't want to believe. "oh how could he do that, he's such a a nice guy". There all nice on the outside, just like a book. People in the position of power don't necessarily have to be bosses, coaches etc. Those pedophiles are also fathers, cousins, brothers, grandparents and spouses who cover up. Why do they cover up?They take the easy way out, they may have to support themselves, embarrassment, disbelief (but they really know) its just easier which makes them worse than the abuser, they colluded, they allowed it to knowingly continue.
        Parents keep talking to your kids, doors stay open, two go to a bathroom in a movie,, keep spaces between others in movies. Overnight trips, sleepovers? Hell NO ! YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT'S IN SOMEONES MIND! Prison for Life, no exceptions!

       

BUY Internet MODEM 80. Stop RENTING from cable co.

   

 I just bought my own modem. Who ever your cable company is charges about ten bucks a month. Sears and other places sells MODEMS for 80-100. they last at least TWO YEARS so in one year you save 40.00 .  The following year 120.Also check other ISP services every once in a while. Many have lower prices. I am noticing that too many people are not happy with Time Warner, but way many people love FIOS. In my area I have had a hard time getting cable and didn't want a dish poking out of my house. Fios wasn't available for years, BUT it is now. I am sceptical with package deals that in small print at the end add, taxes, installation, equipment, service charges etc. All I need is Internet.
    I am on a family members phone plan and have and Antenna for TV. I get all of the main stations, ME TV and a few more, good enough. People, you need a hobby, Get away from paying for television or just buy an antenna. Oh I know, the kids like it-send them outside to play, buy board games, quiz books, checkers, take them to knitting classes, yard sales. Let them go back in time and find some kind of fascinating hobby or interest to invest in now rather than face their own DEPRESSION by sitting in front of TV all day. Let them volunteer in the neighborhood, a nursing home, sweet streets. Now,w go, make changes, I am.

It Only Takes You

       How much we have or how little we have, we have a lot if someone loves us, if everyone has reasonably good health and if you haven't recently lost someone, then you and I have a lot.  But if any of these things affect you or someone you know, then what do you do? What?
       I don't know what really but I do know those who have a real serious faith do much better than those who don't. How do we believe someone is in heaven when they didn't lead a heavenly life you might ask...well, maybe because they had a heavenly heart. Only God really knows.
     Right now I know a man who cares for his uncle's needs in many ways and the uncle is in his eighties. This man is fighting cancer, yet he runs, walks, golfs and who knows what more he's doing. The nephews is so proud of his uncle. That's also faith. They just never quit.
        Now there are hungry people, and people who simply need a friend. Just be careful how you approach them. People have pride and don't like charity. Yes, I know pride goeth before the fall. Haven't we all tripped one time or another? Still there are also people who are lonely, lonely in their own family and those who are so wealthy they become cold hearted and sometimes the poor are as bad, due to pride, but find a way and not because it's a holiday, but because we are human.
        Know too that many people do not have any religious affiliation at all, don't believe in God at all or a higher power. It takes one moment of friendship,one small miracle, one birth, one saved life to show that miracles to come. That works the opposite when someone dies especially a young person. How do you tell a mom or dad and more that there is a purpose to this, much less God had a hand in it? You don't. You let them grieve and talk out as they need to, say what they feel and be there, for  a very long time.
          Remember if someone loves you, even if they're not physically close you have more than many, so be more than many to just one person, any day of the year. Here's to you Victoria and Samantha !
 

Cardinal W.F. Napier, CRAPOLA

      This was on my screen today when I went on line. This Cardinal has the thought process that molestation is not a crime but an illness and should be treated as such. Only after another man of the cloth, an archbishop challenged Napiers statement did Napier add a switch to his feelings about children being molested, yet he also stated that most who molest have been molested. SO WHAT!
     Many who have been molested DON'T do what was done to them but go on to protect other children from pedophiles. Napier states they are not pedophiles but have an illness. This was on a radio station where he was filling in for Cardinal Dolan. Maybe Dolan should ask what the topic will be before radio time, and now as I write this I think differently. Dolan a seemingly good guy may have stopped Napier and we may never have known how Napier feels.
     I can't help but think if Napier is getting ready to protect either himself or someone else. Sure pedophiles need treatment, but it is still very much a crime. A crime committed by those closest to the child, such as a parent or people in authority, and may times a friendly neighbor.
    In the end Napier admitted that Pedophiles have an illness and the illness should be treated and the molestation is a crime. CRAPOLA!!! He only said this after pressure from the church. Politics.

Pedophiles in Church ?

      It's all we hear at this time of electing a new pope. In the end, interviews each and every time hit the church where it hurts, child molestation.  Yes we all have a right to know what the church will do if there is a next time a child is molested. Will they hide the pedophile by transferring him or her to save face as they have done in the past, or will they drop him or her like they deserve. I think the latter, well at least I hope so.
      In an interview this morning the Sunday Morning show, interviewed new priests and asked about marriage. One guy was honest enough to answer, yes, I would marry if it was offered. Another guy had that effeminate lisp that many of us know to be possibly gay.
     What many forget is everyone is entitled to what ever career they choose and are fitted to be. to may focus on the fact that so many pedophiles were found to hide in the Catholic Church and yes, I believe we should never close an eye to those possibilities again. Being Gay doesn't mean you're a pedophile or the fact that you may want to marry, that you'll take your frustrations out on kids. It just means, you might be gay and or want to marry.
     Pedophiles hide out in every area of our lives, schools, Synagogues, Lutheran churches, on the board of some high and might committee and in our own homes, our own fathers and brothers and sometimes mothers. Who hides them the most? Their spouses. There is always suspicion, but rarely confrontation
     Give this new Pope a chance, but keep your eyes on your kids always. Your best friend? Do you really know what's in his mind?
 

Old Times

            Kenny Rogers had a song, "Life Was So Much Easier Twenty Years Ago".  To me it seems like thirty or even forty years ago.  When we think about how neighbors not only knew one another but they cared about one another. Now life is such a rush that so many homes have two working parents and not enough time for much of anything else. So kids get TVs, Video games, IPhones and anything electronic they want. It keeps them from bothering mom and dad, lets them stay in there room nice and safe. But are they?

 

            If anyone knows anything about the dangers in these handheld games please tell your sons and daughters who have kids and tell anyone you know. The worst as I know it, is a PS VITA.

             It seems innocent at first. Commercials make it cute showing a small female child playing games, ad maybe that is a certain PS Vita-there are a couple. One is just for games. But many adults don't know which is which and don't ask enough questions. PS Vita is like putting your child's life at stake as I see I, my opinion. They can reach kids -or adults-in other states, countries. No one knows who is lurking and I do mean lurking on the other side of a PS VITA. They might also come in contact with another kid who seems so very sweet, yet...

         

             In the legal system when a youth commits a crime, many times the record is expunged so how do you really know the kind of people your kids hang out with, go to the movie with, a dance with or "just talk in the privacy of their rooms."

              Yes, life was so much easier many years ago and in may ways it is now. Progress in many ways harms our children, twists their minds, entitles them because as you may have already heard, but my friend has one. Society and entitlement go hand in hand for those who won't accept personal responsibility and play the blame game. As I read somewhere, if you're not content with who you are and what you have, no matter what you have, it won't even be enough. Remember that the next time you think about kids, shopping, values and how you want them to grow.

        By the way, say hello to your next door neighbor.

Mega Millions & The Lottery

       You can't win if you don't play. Isn't that the saying to trap people into playing away their much needed every day money? Now we have the mega million up past a half a billion dollars. Maybe someone can bail out the national debt, after our government isn't doing it.
       We never think when we play how it all adds up. Some people say, this is my only vice. Well why have a vice at all if that's your only one? Smoking, drinking and gambling seem to be the worst of vices, seem to be. But the we have drugs, sex, porn, shopping, and alcohol. The end result is it costs. It cost money, lives and the destruction of families and self.
    My bad habit is I can't stop writing, and uh, I also play the lottery as much as I hate to admit it. I am doing it much less than I used to, aware of where and how money seems to trickle away. I'd also rather spend it on my kids and grandson. Now he is worthwhile for spending and hugging and taking off to just see for a day.
    Well I am working on the house, cleaning, arranging and hopefully ripping a carpet out. You know what "they say" An idle mind is the devils' playground, so I have to keep busy, at least occupied in a positive way. Making bags this weekend.
See my on artfire under Doozybags. I hope whoever does win this gross amount does a lot of sharing and giving to worthwhile causes, like St. Jude, Cancer, The Heart Association, churches that help people, neighbors in need and just do good with it. Congrats who ever you end up to be.

How to buy AMERICAN Only & Where

       This morning I received a reminder from a crafter that she is buying from another crafter for gift giving. That is American Shopping . You can't do better that that. Sure kids want toys but who pays? America is paying every day we shop at that big W store. Imagine if we could control spending and just buy what we need. Go to local markets=healthier eating, supports the farmer as well as people who usually live locally, ends up saving gas, family time and makes happier people.
      I love music and would love a Susan Boyle CD, but first I want to know the whole process of making that CD and where it comes from.
      Just think and do what you can to SAVE AMERICA this holiday season, better yet, if you believe in the Bible, Christianity, maybe celebrate the business side less and the reason more.
       Another way to SAVE AMERICA is write letters, buy recycled, reuse and redecorate, paint a room for someone, help a neighbor, trim trees, ask, ask a neighbor, friend or relative (if you're still speaking) what you can do to help. Cook a dinner that will last a few days or at least for seconds. Babysit to give someone a day off, a night out or shop for someone. Cut coupons and give away. Wash and polish a car for an elderly person-not me:) SAVE AMERICA by helping the AMERICAN neighbor, small business owner, church group/mission and don't accept money. Give time if you can. There are so many AMERICAN NEEDS, so step out and step up, and support the AMERICAN NEIGHBOR, THE AMERICAN BUSINESS OWNER, THE AMERICAN CRAFTER and keep that support right here in our AMERICA this year!

At What Price...Happiness

     Most people are thinking Thanksgiving, families, football and who to invite over or where we will go. Many of those same people can't afford it. The world is quickly turning into an old newspaper called the Enquirer. Okay maybe not really a"newspaper". As a kid I heard it was called a rag paper. But the funny thing is, I remember stories blazing on the front page showing images of very young children looking like very old people:yes, progeria as we now know it's called. But then adults would say, boy that paper will make up anything for a buck. There were stories about two headed cows, aliens, area 51 and so much more which is now known today as truth.
       Then pedophiles were completely ignored and the victims were, nine out of ten made out to be liars. But I remember those pedophiles. There was Casper the shoemaker, short, dirty from shoe polish with an accent and Mr. Sheen , a well-dressed Irish neighbor who people said was such a nice guy, the candy store owner, a sloppy disgusting pig looking man and of course fathers and brothers on the block. It was all so familiar.
        What makes it worse? The kids who it happened to didn't couldn't and wouldn't talk about it. Every day it was there but the pretense of happiness was better to live with, not easier, just better. No one knew who it happened to so who could you trust to tell. There was one man, a father in the neighborhood who we all knew about. They were Peurto Rican. I remember my mother talking to the mom who was somewhat slow mentally, and her son and one daughter was an almost replica. But one daughter was different. She was of average intelligence and pretty.
Her father was a very handsome man, friendly, talked to many and like most perverts, people thought he was a nice guy-that is until the cops came one day and took him away.
       His daughter was pregnant, and he went away to prison for  a long time. When he got out he divorced his wife and his daughter and they moved in together. Was that happiness for her? What did she sacrifice? Everything.
          Happiness is like the ocean. It comes in waves, and sometimes washes enough old stuff away that the good lasts longer each time. We have to help that goodness along. Just like that neighbor kid, we were told to mind our own business. She was our business. When do we learn and what does it take to get involved where we're told we don't belong.
           If the waves come too fast, you have to step backwards. Remember that cold feeling of getting wet when you're not ready?
    Help someone. Don't always mind your own business, get involved and yes be careful. Have a good Thanksgiving. Try not to gossip about people because you don't know if you're being gossiped about too and don't pass the buck, unless it's to a charity, or a church that is really doing good, and most of all if you think you can't do anything, you can pray. It's still free in these United States. Sleep Well:)