One Judge ? Not Good Enough.

      As I listened to her tell her story over an over again, Robin Carboneau used an expression we hear so often when asked about justice. She said the justice system was disappointing to say the least and then she pointed upwards saying but there is justice in the end.
    While that's all very nice and believable we are also told anyone can be saved then forgiven in the end, so why not make sure justice is served in the here and now. That was where this lady impressed me. Her name, her native American name is Kindhearted Woman.
     Thoughout her whole documentary she sighed, as if with every sigh she relived her agonizing childhood. In her court battle even her father took side with the tribal nation to call her a liar, her daughter a liar who was molested by Robin's husband and the child's father, same person. Robins father lost custody of her due to alcohol, so he sides with people of the same natures.
     Robin walks from court with her child and her foster child from six years ago, also molested by Robins ex husband, and finally that person was found guilty, but, the burn here was he only received about three years in jail. The tribal nation turned all allegations on the flip side, saying Robin did all of this, everything was false, she lied about her whole life.
      What courage she had ! But this is what families also do. A black sheep is made because the family does not want their dirty secret out. But Robin persevered, and the toll it took on her and her children is worth at least twenty more years in jail for her ex-husband. It may console many people to hear her say as many others do too, that He will judge, but what about now? What about these "people" getting off so free? What about that?

WOW ! Kindhearted Woman on PBS

       I tried to change stations as certain topics entered into the story, yet found I couldn't. Quickly my fingers went to some other channel, but just as fast I returned to Chanel 33 here in Pennsylvania.
       The native American reservation tribes usually get custody over children in divorce no matter the reasons why a parent should not have custody and worse than that, well as bad, is a caseworker who connives for the tribal parent, wanting to hide the secrecy of molestation, rape and alcoholism.
        Many cultures hide the horrors that are committed with families so they're not perceived as the whole of that culture, taking part in the offenses, yet in covering it all up, that's exactly what they do.  They take part.
      Kindhearted Woman is captivating and brings you into a feeling of, what's going to happen. tonight it was told how it's going to end, a mistake in my opinion as many won't watch it. I will.
      A a child I was taught all cultures have some insanity or dirt about them, yet that came from a person who was committing the worst kind of child offenses. So I related very much to this documentary. The secrets, the hiding, pretending not to know by the female parent, and then the blame on the child if ever believed. All excuses, a lump remains. Spirit Lake cries.

Cardinal W.F. Napier, CRAPOLA

      This was on my screen today when I went on line. This Cardinal has the thought process that molestation is not a crime but an illness and should be treated as such. Only after another man of the cloth, an archbishop challenged Napiers statement did Napier add a switch to his feelings about children being molested, yet he also stated that most who molest have been molested. SO WHAT!
     Many who have been molested DON'T do what was done to them but go on to protect other children from pedophiles. Napier states they are not pedophiles but have an illness. This was on a radio station where he was filling in for Cardinal Dolan. Maybe Dolan should ask what the topic will be before radio time, and now as I write this I think differently. Dolan a seemingly good guy may have stopped Napier and we may never have known how Napier feels.
     I can't help but think if Napier is getting ready to protect either himself or someone else. Sure pedophiles need treatment, but it is still very much a crime. A crime committed by those closest to the child, such as a parent or people in authority, and may times a friendly neighbor.
    In the end Napier admitted that Pedophiles have an illness and the illness should be treated and the molestation is a crime. CRAPOLA!!! He only said this after pressure from the church. Politics.

Joe Paterno-Why didn't they all do more? That Stain!

        We don't understand why Joe Paterno didn't do more and why all involved and yes I say as much as I don't like to say, involved because those who stand by and do little or not enough are involved. Like many I too loved Joe Paterno and what he stood for, as I did Penn State. This past week I'm not sure how I feel about him or the University. I do know yesterday when I put a shirt on, a Penn State shirt, suddenly I looked down with a feeling of being unsure. I said the hell with it. This is mine, paid for twice, once with my education and once at the Penn State store.
         It was an old short sleeve white with Blue lettering, filled with stains from years of wear. So I had two little kids visiting, finished dressing and went to my local market run by nice country people with those back country roads accents. As I picked up a pre-ordered roast, I heard a voice, looked to what he was doing as he asked to people behind the counter, does anyone want a piece of the paper, Penn State or the cartoons. I felt a shame and my face redden. Was that remark meant for me because I had that shirt on or was I being paranoid?
          Either way, the boys and I went home, put the roast away, sat and talked about what we were going to do when we went out for he day. Just as we were about to leave I said hold on guys, I have to change. I went in my room and grabbed any old top. When I came out the little guy asked, as he knew how much I loved Penn State, hey where's your Penn State shirt? With simple and plain honesty a little kid could understand I said, it filled with stains. I knew he thought I meant the spotted drips of time, but I didn't.
           Yesterday we went out, basketball, hiking, a playground, the library, and art museum and eating out of course and I talked to them more in depth about that stranger danger stuff. They said they knew it all, and I try to teach any kids who I may work with about this. I asked, what if you were in the bathroom at the movies and some man comes up and touches you? One said, I don't know. He's ten. The other at twelve said, I'll yell at him, you're not my father or mother. So was he telling me something else in that statement I have to report-indeed I will. I will write in into notes, and report it to about and at least four people. Or was he simply telling me It's only in appropriate if anyone other than a parent touches you anywhere, as in washing a kids face etc?
             I knew then both of these boys after talking to them have been very sheltered from and with words like molestation. Since they are visiting I felt at first it isn't my place to teach them, then I said the hell with it and told them. I educated them on these things this weekend that I'm sure some grown-ups will not like as these kids have been very spiritually educated and in that, have also been verbally protected and don't know how many predators are really out to harm such innocence.
      Today we are going out into crowds and I will be close, but what happens when they go to the bathroom. I am giving them whistles and have told them to yell fire and yell don't touch me like that, as loud as you can, and keep on yelling. Yes you may think if a kid yells fire it gives an opportunity for kidnapping-true-but hopefully while others are running out, I will be running in to grab two sets of hands.
     As far as Joe Paterno and the other's involved in it, brings me to the old adage, if you're not with me, you're against me. That stain doesn't wash away so easily. How long do you think it stays within the victims?