Cheating Spouses/Partners

        What is it that makes someone cheat? Ego? Of course. They think they'll never be caught, too smart, and so much better than who they're with. They think they deserve to cheat, that it's someone else's fault. Sure someone else, , no matter who, pushed you into cheating. They will twist and turn everything into, this was your fault; If you didn't yell, if you had my clothes ready, if you fixed yourself up, if you had my supper ready and so many more excuses.

     The best excuse is when they may want to get back together which is really for financial reasons and so they can cheat again is : It didn't mean anything !   I believe strongly anyone who has such an ego as to cheat is basically saying, "you're not good enough for me, I had to find someone else".  Of course it meant something ! That's just another lie. How many lies will be told and how long will they go on? Lies will go on as long as there is a connection, as long as he or she is grooming you to take them back. That may take months or a year but slowly they will wear a person down trying to prove they've changed. The only thing that changed is, their looking for someone else to cheat with.

         These people feel they have a right to cheat and yes will do it again and again. If the couple comes back together the cheater will think, Ha! He or she believed me, I can do it again, because he or she took me back which in their egotistical mind feels, the partner or spouse just isn't too bright and must really need me because they can't get anyone better than me. This is the internal message they send themselves which again gives them permission to cheat.

        There are all kinds of reasons or excuses people cheat and as adults, they may have individual reasons to feel it was acceptable, it was expected, and things will be okay again. No, it won't ! Every time that cheating person goes out the door, you will wonder, who is she or he talking to, why is it taking so long, what reason will he or she give when they do come back from "the store"? Oh the line was so long, the cashier messed up, I was stuck in traffic, I didn't have enough money. Excuses to call a new cheating partner ? TRUST ! That word no longer exists with cheaters. They cant be trusted, wake up!

       Are children in the picture? What reason or excuse will you give your kids when they find out and they will because there is always someone dying to tell what a rat that cheater was/is! Mainly people tell and talk because there are kids to think about. Some well meaning person will tell because they don't want a best friend to be hurt any longer but to get on with life with a truly all around good person and partner.

      Other kids will hear adults talking and pass along what they heard to the children of the cheating adult sounding like this: Did you know your mom or dad had a boyfriend or girlfriend? That's why sometimes they don't live together. Can you just hear that now? Adults talk and so do kids. They copy, mimic what they hear and do, especially when a parent says, go play.

       Two adults cheating?  Why? Go live apart. Be up front and divorce. Don't stay for financial reasons.. Kids involved ? Cheaters should have the guts to tell the partner or spouse, I have a problem, but the person who doesn't say that doesn't have courage, but does have an ego so big they know almost with certainty they'll talk their way back in and they'll act like a new, better, happier person who has learned a lesson. Watch out! They're  lying to themselves and to the partner /spouse, so how much collateral damage are you going to take? How damaged will you allow your children to take and will they, then do the same as they are learning. Be good to yourselves and your children. That's what you all  deserve.
        

Waitresses & Dr.Office Ladies , Annoying

       Okay, not all, but I am so fed up with waitresses and doctor office ladies who address women as if they are children. Even when talking to children, cut out that high pitched baby crap voice. Hi! and how are you today with this awful annoying high voice. Then a man comes in and she talks in a regular voice. I have seen it over and over again in restaurants and in my own doctors office as well as in an office when I went with a friend. Do they think women are babies and don't understand?
     Did someone tell these ladies to talk to other females and children like they are all morons? Why are men shown the respect on those places. Last week in my doctors office, a guy was ahead of me and the nurse comes out, calls him by name in a regular voice. Then the same nurse comes back with this freakin' whiny high pitched voice! All I thought was, let me shut her up!
    Ladies take heed. You sound like IDIOTS! BY acting that way you are also showing men we as women , well you as women are telling men they deserve better and more respectful conversation. Stop talking to the younger kids like they're two years old-all you do is help keep them in a place of babyhood. You are supposed to be smarter.
     Waitresses, when you talk to me like that, it affects your tip. You are demeaning not only me, but yourself. When a waiter talks to me, he doesn't change his voice, so why do you as waitresses? That's as bad as women who lower their voices, called Vocal fry-look it up-to make themselves sound smarter. IT doesn't-you are freaking annoying ! Not smarter, but make me want to run, roll my eyes and say OH GOD, who does she think she's fooling?
   Wake up women!

Hillary HATES Average Whites-Stupid Women

       In listening to a few news stations , the same message is being repeated, so this is not one stations' opinions or facts, but at least four.
        Across the news is the fact that she is enticing Hispanics, African Americans, gays, and women . So to me, she thinks those people are plain STUPID. Hillary must think they don't know better so, in effect, I'll go after their votes.
       Nothing mentioned about average white people, average anyone and of course we know she'll go with the party. That's how anyone gets into office. They do what the party wants to get the votes, so is her party blind to group those she is favoring as one and the same people ?
    Does she think because a person is gay, they all think alike ? The same with Hispanics and African Americans...she must think they all think alike, don't have a second thought/brain to think as an individual. She also much think all women think alike. Stupid women, can't you think for yourselves ?
How else, what else can she be thinking. Hillary has money and plenty of it and she is arrogant enough to Think that the groups of people don't care about her illegal activities, how she treated those connected to Benghazi, what she's done to hide e mails, her land dealings and so much more.
         What does she really care about ? Her self, her stature, her money, her position, maybe Bill if he isn't cheating, and of course her daughter.
 
But does she CARE, Really CARE about you because you are GAY? 
NOT in my opinion. She only wants the vote so she treats you like a bunch of idiots.
WOMEN !  She is treating you like third class citizens when husbands were completely in control. Comments come out both side of her mouth, one  side for the vote and one side for the party, but nothing for the individual.
 Hispanics - Same thing goes-She is treating you as if you just became an American and owe it all to her so you owe her a vote.  How many people of the Hispanic culture are more American than Hillary ? Most in my opinion. Excuse me-I just heard a lady say I want to vote for Hillary because she's a women and I'm a women and I have a daughter. CAN YOU BE MORE STUPID ???
I need to end this as hearing such comments make me puke. Please take time. Vote as the person you are and measure the person you want in office. For example let's say you want to vote for "John" or "Mable" and you're a lesbian. Mable is a women and John talks big about the gay vote and all he'll do. Do you want someone who is of the mindset to only helps people who are gay or help the country as a whole? Possible a poor example but if you vote for someone who want the country to improve as a whole, so will you as a women, a man, a person who is Gay, Hispanics, African Americans, people with disabilities, immigrants and so that's the picture I want to leave you with.

      

A Father's Rights-Discrimination ?

     Today I met a young man who is stable, nice, angry, pays support, works overtime just to pay attorney fees and loves his child. He isn't like many single parents who say, ah, let me pay support, then I can party weekends. No he works and wants his child, now full-time. Why? Because the ex is not giving the child a stable life, moves too many times- just because.
     In my opinion there is a strong sense of discrimination towards this man as I listened to his story. Just because you are a woman, doesn't entitle you to keep the children and just because you bore them doesn't mean you are closer, having bonded more, as I have learned over the years, that 's just anatomy.  Times have changed and there are all kinds of  discrimination against people. So who gets to prove those issues? Will a court system say dad gets the kids because he is gay and the court doesn't want the Gay and Lesbian and on and on against them, worrying about votes? Will a court system give the kids to dad because he is really the best parent ?
     The court system, political system has to stop the crap and allow children to live with the stable parent, the one who lives in a same place, keeps a steady job, has long tern relationships and that those relationships are healthy as well, physically and emotionally. What happened to decent parenting?
    What happened to decent lawyers, lawyers who don't don't rob you blind out of the money you can put into a childs' future, or a special vacation ? What makes them deserve 250. an hour? They drag things out and out which means more money for the lawyer. Sure they have bills to pay too, but do they think they are GOD???
     I would bet any amount of money these lawyers tell you they have faith in God or a higher power. Sure, their banks. If a lawyer is truly there to right wrongs how is it they make it wrongfully so in charging thousands of dollars for a divorce and support ? How is that righting a wrong? Wait until it happens to you...oh I forgot, you have plenty of money. YOU stole it from hard working people, in my opinion.
 

Do Not Buy GoodYear Products=Ledbetter Law

        Men, if you love your the women in your lives do not buy from Goodyear. Women Goodyear does not respect females. Females make .77 to the 1.00 compared to men. Women were told who worked at Goodyear not to discuss pay or they would be fired.
       Lilly Ledbetter found out she was earning, after nineteen years at Goodyear only forty percent of what the men made who did the same job. That night, in the middle of the night she realized how that affected her retired, pension and all that she worked for, for many years. She sued, but not in time and won nothing from our supreme court which is mainly men.
        What Lilly Ledbetter did win on behalf of all generations of women to come was an equal pay law in her name, thanks in a big part to Ruth Ginsburg, a lady on the Supreme Court. I Bet all of those men had their tiny penis's in a knot, well almost, not big enough to tie.
   Do not buy from Goodyear. They fought to pay this lady her rightfully owed back pay. Let's send them a message that since they decided not to pay this lady what she fairly earned as well as any man, to hit them back. Do Not buy from Goodyear. Lets show them how people stick together against a huge money making corporation who screws women, like their own wives, daughters, grandchildren.

Calling all Bears

       Hey Peeps, They don't judge

            I am asking for bears. I will buy and accept for free. Some I buy to be honest I will use on my web site where I sell (joke sorta-rarely sell) bags and will put a bag in a bear, but only those I buy and only small ones.
  
    Right now I have three huge bears and about ten small ones. I bought them all and am buying about 20 more next week, well maybe ten, I'll see. One lady will be giving me about ten also next week and letting me buy one.
    The purpose of this is: As fast as I can sew, I am making bags and blankets, will wrap a bear in a blanket or put him-or her-in a bag that I made and give away to women and young girls in crisis situations. I know one young lady who it helped very much during lonely times to have a bear to hug.
    So some of you know where I live and many don't, but contact me at Doozybags@aol.com  I will be glad to pick them up, wanting to start New Years off with a BEAR HUG
    I will probablt post this every evening :) Thank you

Swordfish...Why Don't We....

    Okay so I didn't see it when I first came out, but that just lets me have a new perspective and appreciation of this fantastic movie. What an idea! Screwed up as it is, I have to side with...yeah Hugh Jackman in this. Near the end Vinny Barbarino, I mean John Travolta asks for the sake of the country would you kill one child and Hugh Jackman's answer is no. In a twisted way, just imagine if there were more like Gabriel in this movie played by Travolta.
    Our country would be secure of terrorists, and yet again at what price. I guess what I don't get is, if a write can conjure up such a movie/storyline, why can't and why wouldn't our own government do something very similar? Who, and where are the brains?
     So many people say, but it's just a movie, but it isn't. It started out as a thought for someone, became a story and finally a movie. Parts of this movie continue in our won country every time someone blows up people and places on American lands, so maybe this story is telling the US Government, why are we not stopping these people! If a movie Producer, story writer can come up with such devious plans to attack and undermine terrorists, why don't we? IS the answer simply we are more civilized so we can spare our own people to be blown to pieces any time a terrorist wants to, or is because our government doesn't have the financial resources?
     Yet our senators and congressman and women can simply ask for cash without explaining they use and take it out of a fund set up for their own expenses. Why do they get such treatment. No other job that I know of, gets a salary, a car to use, air transportation, lunches, dinners, a car, hotels paid for and cash. Why do they? They are doing a lousy job and still they get all of those benefits, plus a fantastic medical benefit and a pension of over seventy thousand if only in office a year. Social security?
       That was our own money we paid in to with additional money from our employers be saved with interest and now the government is calling it entitlements as if the government is giving it to us like welfare. But what about their "entitlements"? They take as if they are entitled without any explanation at all. Let's cut their entitlements. By the way, each and every president along the way allows this, and so do we with our votes. WHY?

Money, Women and Men

        I just read an article that talks about how much smarter men are with money than women. One fact it didn't mention is, men still earn more in same positions than women and women are not allowed to reach those same positions. Yes, it is still a man's world, but women are catching up.
     Who is teaching females and males about money growing up? Moms and dads of course, but which parent has more working knowledge? Probably the working parent or the parent who is in charge of finances. Disagree? I understand why. I know of people today who both work, have kids and the father hides money from his wife while she spends extra from her check on groceries. He is investing in stocks for his future, the what ifs.
    So what about the parent who is a stay at home person? No paycheck, no insurance, no savings, no retirement account, no IRA, no workers comp, NOTHING. That person is simply delusional in the fact that their marriage will last forever.
     Both parents have to have income as a matter of having a safety net. Nothing is certain in this world. So how much do you save? Have you figured what it would cost you to live for a year? Surveys tell us people are to save for a three year plan without income. OMG!!!
    In the times we live in with outrageous rents and groceries and just day to day living how do people save? In the past few months I met a woman who is seventy-nine years old. Many feel old people have it made with retirement. Here's her story condensed. Her social security is 1179. a month. She lives with a daughter who doesn't help at all and this woman said, well she had a back surgery and is waiting for disability, yet this grown daughter won't life a finger to even help mom fill out paperwork of any kind. Mom had medical bills, still drives and with her income is supporting a grown daughter. Mom is also, to be honest helping her daughter's laziness as she told me this over a year ago about the back surgery. I don't know the details and haven't met her daughter and oh, she has a cat. So at what time in life was this woman ever told about investments?
    There are many more like her whose retirement every month is even less. What about moms on welfare and the fact that its' generational? Ladies, if you choose to be a stay at home mom or men a stay at home dad you better work on having a paycheck of some kind. Remember Daddy Day Care ? There's always a way. I wish someone told me.

Today, I Needed a Reminder

       This morning my son and I talked about stuff way before Boston's bombs went off. Our conversation was about crime and how I am so tired of it all, not unlike many. In the background I hear his baby boy with words that pop through as only a new baby learning can say and makes the subject matter forgotten momentarily. That's happiness, a baby's voice, smile, touch and sounds, makes the world better.
    Brought back to crime and other life matters we also talked about my son's bike race recently, again interrupted by the baby's voice and of course I would loudly say I love you, or make some silly sounds in return. I love the kinds of chats my son and I had today and it was almost two hours. It seemed like we haven't talked in such a long time, but we did, so maybe it was just a time when we were without interruptions with the exception of the baby. There it was again, his mimicking my sons' words. I remember smiling and forgetting my feeling about the senseless crime in our nation and what brought it about.
   We ended with taking more about an upcoming visit, a new baby on the way, another little brother and possible a family vacation time when everyone could be together, Saying I love you to one another, we hung up.
   It was within an hour that the Boston news filled my television screen and I was brought back to the conversation with my son, yet quickly pushed it away with knowing someone one or more did this on purpose. What the hell is wrong with people ? That lump in my throat was filled as my heart went to families and children, coming in from school with parents who work. What were kids feeling and thinking?  How do they take care of their immediate fears and questions ? Who will protect them when moms and dads can't be there?
     Many hours later my son sent me something that I needed to be reminded about, especially today. He said it was something he borrowed from another persons Fb page. Mainly it was a reminder as in today's explosions, people ran back to help. Now as I write this I listen to the eleven o'clock news and an interviewer is asking a local man who returned from Bostons marathon, specifics. This young man said people ran back to see what was going on. Yes, I had to put that out there-BUT-
     I remember seeing while many did go back to look as people do, there were some who ran to help and  many who stayed in the medical tent, not knowing if another bomb was close by and many EMT's police and firemen, and doctors and nurses who ran to help, pull barricades down, tend to the injured, tend to the emotions of people and in a final breath, tend to the dead.
     As a driver with kids in the car, when accidents happen, traffic slows down and usually not because it has to, but because people slow down and look. If I have kids in car, they ask me to slow down or turn around so we can get closer. I want to get ahead faster, knowing gawking is not what's needed, but kids don't get it.
     So in the end there are more people who are good than not, and yes, probably like you who saw today's news, you were reminded of 9/11. Those pictures came back vividly for me too and I remember working that day in mental health, in a group room, how everyone leaned on each other two hundred miles away. I spoke on the phone with my daughter who was crying as I held the lump in my throat down, knowing I wanted so much to be with her, but she was another two hundred miles away in another direction, closer to where a hijacked plane went down.
    As I sat slumped in my chair a supervisor passed by asking if I was alright and yes I was, but he said he'd take my group while I talked with my daughter. People helping. I went back to my group and saw how many people with illnesses wanted to , and some couldn't help but to make that, their crisis. Yet we were still there to help and support. Just like today and in the next days ahead, people will be there to help, emotionally, financially, medically, and in any way possible. Moms and dads, sons and daughters, brothers and sisters, friends will all be there for one anther too.
     Teachers will have a job of it with kids in school. People were killed today, senselessly. Kids will think about other schootings' and not feel safe.Teachers have to be ready as they usually are to be careful and sensitive to let children know that as decent adults we will always do what we need to to help and protect our children, that we will take each day, a day at a time and they those kids have friends, and adults to help them, after all,as adults, we understand ?

Bald Men

     Hey Baldies! Sorry, I really don't mean that. Yeah I know so why let it go and why not delete it? Why? Because Baldies, chrome domes are names insecure people call others, just like fatty and pimples. Those are people who without someone to knock down are so low in their own self worth, they trip on others. Imagine if you went instead face to face, serious and asked them, why did you just do that? What are you getting out of that? They'll become a bit red-face and try to laugh it off, but you know then you have the upper hand.

    Please don't get a wig. I know, who am I to say that.  Well I am no one to say that, but it isn't a wig that makes you secure and it isn't your self worth, it's you. How many wealthy men do not wear wigs? That's because money and power makes them secure even if they're good guys or horrible people.
    Now look at people who wear wigs/toupees, rugs who can only afford a bar minimum. Those wigs are so obvious, people are staring at how silly it looks. When people meet a bald guy we are looking at you, who you are and sure we may glance at the top of your head the same as someone with hair, but we also glance at your hands, how tall or short you are, your teeth and so much more. But mainly it's you who people want to know, not whats' on your head, but what's in your head.
     If you wear a wig and you're a creepy, not so nice guy, that wig only makes you look worse and we know it. If you're a good guy who wear a wig, we just feel sorry for you, so please, know who you are. We do. Use your money for something else. Wig makers bank on your insecurity.
   Ladies who are losing their hair, well that's another story. See a doctor and go from there. It happens. Take care all, and be your good old self.
 

Dr. OZ Crapola-Supplements, True or False

       Yesterdays show threw me for a loop. Dr. Oz came on with a guest about supplements and how a person or people could adversely be affected by taking them including vitamins. This guest spoke about how we really get enough in the foods we eat and can actually overdo or overdose by taking too many. So Oz announces he is taking back his thoughts on supplements. Okay, that was pretty honest.
       In the very next segment, here we go again, he was pushing supplements with another guest. I have a big question. Is he promoting Supplements or health? Why does he direct so much to women? Does he care at all about the health of men?
      I know OZ. has had  a few segments on about the health of men, but very few. I see a same kind of thing with Phil McGraw. His latest things is to push another book and his son as the publisher owning his own publishing company. I wonder how he was able to make his own publishing company?
    Back to OZ. I do like his show and appreciate his education and advice, but what I object to is that it all appears directed to women and seems like a same message over and over again. Why? Because he knows women will buy more and that sucks ! I take from it what may benefit me, but I know for sure without OZ my life has improved because a man, Thanks Marty, introduced me to  Forks over Knives and because I have two great kids who want me to take better care of myself. Do yourself a favor too, check out Forks over knives. You don't have to go drastic. I didn't, but I did find I like it and feel so much better, including the weight loss. Every day is a new day if you keep trying;it's when you stop trying there may not be a new day.

Announcing ConsumerCosta

       Good Morning Everyone

            I have just started a new Blog titled ConsumerCosta which as it sounds will be mainly about products we all use or want to know about. My first post which will appear at ten this morning is about Gildan tee-shirts. Gildan.com
            It's a very simple link and I checked out the site this morning. I bought white tee-shirts at AC MOORE when on sale which I didn't know about when I went it. I went in to but transfer paper. As some of you may know, I have a book coming out in the Spring, The Jelly Bean Forest. In preparation for that I am making tee-shirts with pictures on it from the book.
        So on the way to the paper I see a big sale for shirts, stop and pick one up. It was a GILDAN.  I felt it and knew I found a better product for tee-shirts, one that young females could comfortable wear, so moms and dads, this is the thickness you want for your children as well as the quality.
     Please take a few minutes to check out their site as they offer more than tee-shirts. Also look for sales in your community. Don't forget, GILDAN! That's the Brand you want, a quality product  for quality people.