Cheating Spouses/Partners

        What is it that makes someone cheat? Ego? Of course. They think they'll never be caught, too smart, and so much better than who they're with. They think they deserve to cheat, that it's someone else's fault. Sure someone else, , no matter who, pushed you into cheating. They will twist and turn everything into, this was your fault; If you didn't yell, if you had my clothes ready, if you fixed yourself up, if you had my supper ready and so many more excuses.

     The best excuse is when they may want to get back together which is really for financial reasons and so they can cheat again is : It didn't mean anything !   I believe strongly anyone who has such an ego as to cheat is basically saying, "you're not good enough for me, I had to find someone else".  Of course it meant something ! That's just another lie. How many lies will be told and how long will they go on? Lies will go on as long as there is a connection, as long as he or she is grooming you to take them back. That may take months or a year but slowly they will wear a person down trying to prove they've changed. The only thing that changed is, their looking for someone else to cheat with.

         These people feel they have a right to cheat and yes will do it again and again. If the couple comes back together the cheater will think, Ha! He or she believed me, I can do it again, because he or she took me back which in their egotistical mind feels, the partner or spouse just isn't too bright and must really need me because they can't get anyone better than me. This is the internal message they send themselves which again gives them permission to cheat.

        There are all kinds of reasons or excuses people cheat and as adults, they may have individual reasons to feel it was acceptable, it was expected, and things will be okay again. No, it won't ! Every time that cheating person goes out the door, you will wonder, who is she or he talking to, why is it taking so long, what reason will he or she give when they do come back from "the store"? Oh the line was so long, the cashier messed up, I was stuck in traffic, I didn't have enough money. Excuses to call a new cheating partner ? TRUST ! That word no longer exists with cheaters. They cant be trusted, wake up!

       Are children in the picture? What reason or excuse will you give your kids when they find out and they will because there is always someone dying to tell what a rat that cheater was/is! Mainly people tell and talk because there are kids to think about. Some well meaning person will tell because they don't want a best friend to be hurt any longer but to get on with life with a truly all around good person and partner.

      Other kids will hear adults talking and pass along what they heard to the children of the cheating adult sounding like this: Did you know your mom or dad had a boyfriend or girlfriend? That's why sometimes they don't live together. Can you just hear that now? Adults talk and so do kids. They copy, mimic what they hear and do, especially when a parent says, go play.

       Two adults cheating?  Why? Go live apart. Be up front and divorce. Don't stay for financial reasons.. Kids involved ? Cheaters should have the guts to tell the partner or spouse, I have a problem, but the person who doesn't say that doesn't have courage, but does have an ego so big they know almost with certainty they'll talk their way back in and they'll act like a new, better, happier person who has learned a lesson. Watch out! They're  lying to themselves and to the partner /spouse, so how much collateral damage are you going to take? How damaged will you allow your children to take and will they, then do the same as they are learning. Be good to yourselves and your children. That's what you all  deserve.
        

Leftists leave carnage behind in DC

            Who is paying for the destruction? I sincerely hope the IRS holds onto any refunds of anyone who was arrested, holds welfare checks for months and holds anyones cash benefits of any kind if they were caught and arrested. Why do taxpayers have to keep paying for rioters.
     SUGGESTION:  Police need to prepare with hoses loaded with red dye and or mace in order to catch rioters so they can lock them up, check out backgrounds, and grab any money by attaching wages, benefits, IRS income refunds, homes, autos etc. Its time we the PEOPLE hit them back-where it hurts !!!

Alzheimers, US Ranks # Two Highest world wide-WHY?

    After seeing B. Smith on Dr. Oz yesterday I was curious about Alzheimer's, senility, dementia, call it what you want. We as an AMERICAN nation rank the second highest in the world. LOOK IT UP! WHY ? Why are we and about a dozen other countries so high with our citizens having Alzheimer's while most other countries are so very low.
    Having such a low rate with Alzheimer's means less medical bills, less personal care, less deaths and more. What are our researches NOT DOING that other countries are. We need to know ! We need to learn ! Now, not in a few years. Is this once again about money and med costs ? After all, many are old, so why bother ? But many young people are getting this awful disease in their thirties to fifties. We need answers now !
       A lady like B. Smith who gets Alzheimer's is in an odd way fortunate, only because she has money, so her husband/companion takes care of her in style. He makes sure she eats a healthy diet, works out, gets on a treadmill and socializes and also does reading/writing exercises as well as take her meds. Then there are those who don't have the money or insurance, so what happens to them? They will go into  a city nursing home. We know how most of those places are and we have heard horror stories. If you own a home, they go back five years and will take every penny you have left. Sure you should pay if you can, but isn't this part of whats wrong in our country?  So if you sold your home four years prior and possible gave money to your kids, gambled it, went on vacations and just don't have any left but can't prove what you did with your own money at that time, what will a nursing home do?
    What alternatives do we have?

Take Pedophile Hasterts Gov't Pension for ABuse

        Since it appears this pervert cannot be sued or locked up, why can't his extra government pension be taken and donated to abuse victims of sexual abuse. He can still receive retirement as in social security, but should not receive a dime or his wife if he has one , in the way of any extra money. He has been paying off someone while working for the government, meaning he is a crook, liar, involved in blackmail and now will get off Scott free?
    NO WAY in HELL should he get away with the rest of his life made easier when he has ruined more than one life I'm sure. HE should be fined, using anything he has saved, any investments such as homes, cars, bank accounts, securities and donate it all to victims of sexual abuse and their families who had to go through with their children's torment, counseling and at least one death.
   Take this bastards money!!!

Nicole Curtis & Obama

       This young woman has done more for rebuilding America than Obama has and I don't care if people say, well she gets paid to do that, she earns a profit-well then DUH on you, so does Obama. Nicole Curtis rebuilds house after house to improve Detroit and surrounding areas. Where is it Obama grew up, lived? His friend who became mayor , what is he doing to improve the run down and rotting away homes that become hang outs for drug addicts. Not a thing. Sound familiar ?
     Nicole Curtis, you are a one woman celebration. You should be in charge of housing in America. That old expression, waste not, want not is you in a nutshell. Thank you for showing America what Obama is not doing.

Specific Ways to Improve Income

                 I am going to give, offer you positive way to bring more money into your home, your life, way of living to help you pay off your mortgage sooner and I am dead serious.
         Okay so most of you know all about, get an extra part time job. Well usually that part time job in you live in a big city cost more to get there and back again, leaving you making little towards that extra bill and so on. Living in the country, you know you need a car.
     So here are some part time jobs you don't want, newspaperman/woman, bartender, bodyguard, babysitter, unless it can be done in your home.
    My interest in putting this out there is because I was presented with it the same way, that I could consider it a part-time job, but there isn't anything part time about it. It is definitely full-time and can be very wearing. Here goes: Foster Care.
    Talk to your spouse or partner or if a single person, talk to your self. This take planning. You are bringing a child into your home you know nothing about, except for what is written on paper. As you go you learn more. Habits, sleeping, food, clothing , like, hates and more. So starting off, you can actually choose age, and gender as well as culture.
   When I started I was told I would be paid once a month and then it helped me beyond belief as I was single, worked full time in mental health, brought home very little and also worked part time as a youth advocate where I spent my whole measly check on the kids, but I enjoyed it very much.
    Adoption is another issue that comes up with foster care. You may be asked if you would consider being a pre-adoptive parent. Adoptive continue to get a monthly stipend for the child they adopt to help with financial needs and get this, which sounds awful. They want you to negotiate !!!
   Here is my advice if you think about checking into this. Look into foster care agencies. Do Not go right to Children and Youth. Children and youth barely pay you what might amount to babysitting for half a day. There are so many kids who need a home and you could be that one person or family who gives a child or children a chance at a whole brand new life. It isn't easy at all, but it is definitely worth it. Good Luck to  new foster parents. By the way, you can live in an apartment, home, mobile home, just not a tent:)