Selig, A-rod and a KID !!!! Throw the garbage out !

        Isn't baseball about kids and their dreams ? What kind of a loser uses a kid to think he's placing attention on A-Rod?
       Selig should be put in the hall of shame. What ever A-Rod has or hasn't done is no reason to use a kid. What kind of impression does this leave on that boy? We talk as parents and also as base ball players and coaches to be good sports. This is not what a good sport does. This is not good adult leadership. Lead by example ? HELL no!!!
     Selig needs to get a huge fine for using a child this way. Last note, what does this also say about the boy's parents and for the sake of argument, let's say the parents weren't there and this happened. Then the parents need to take action against a cowardly, misjudged action against a grown and wealthy business who used a kid. If the parents were there, where are there morals, unless they were paid, and again, where are there morals. fine them too. This boy has to know and learn this was so wrong on Selig's part.
   As far as A-Rod goes, if he broke the law, deal with that. These sports players need to be thrown out of the game, first offense ! Why, because they are grown men who know right from wrong and kids are watching and listening to arguments of adults as to why they should be given second and third chances.
   When kids see and hear what they do, they think that if they do wrong, and knowingly, they too should be given more chances with very little consequences.
There are too many young people who can play any sports game and not get involved in beating/assaulting women, who don't get into drugs, and DUI"S and more. Too many sport celebrities are good guys and gals. Reward them by throwing out the garbage !!! Stop accepting mediocre !

Suicide, Good-Bye Kiddo

       I won't mention his name as that doesn't serve a purpose, because he is someones' son, a dad to a little boy and ex-boyfriend who was loved by many, and maybe he was a brother too. I don't know the family dynamics but only know he is dead. This morning he hanged himself and I don't know the details. I only know what is important is, he is no longer here, no longer here to be loved and to love others.
     This is the deepest kind of grief, to lose a child. I can only begin to imagine the depth of anguish his parents are going through, and how do you explain to a small child that daddy chose not to be here any more for you. Suicide is a selfish act, but more important is one of desperation when a person doesn't see a way out of whatever turmoil he or she is in.
     This young man, maybe twenty-one or twenty-two was some years back in a  school for kids with behavioral problems. He told someone he knew me and that I was a nice lady, that he remembered me because I was so nice. I didn't know him when he was introduced to me. All I thought about him was, he was a cute kid, trying hard to be a dad and  good boyfriend. Little did I know what he was fighting on the inside.
     As some time went on I learned of one of his demons and that alone was enough to let me know he shouldn't have children around until he was well, if he would become well. That school I mentioned,most kids do great there, but only because the ratio of men verses kids far outweigh a traditional school. With that, his issues were probably never deeply addressed and yet, I honestly don't know. I only know my experiences with kids in those schools and while they serve a purpose, it's temporary.
    This young man had so many years ahead of him. What a personality he had. From time to time I saw him but never went out to dinner, or had any sit-down talks. There never seemed to be a reason why. With him and his ex-girlfriend things appeared fine...until they moved in together. Then more of who he was really like came out and his issues. I won't knock him. I only wish I knew how we could prevent suicide more often than we do.
    Recently I saw someone had a bike day to raise funds to prevent suicide. If funds are to be raised, it should be to add more back into the Mental Health system. Too much has been cut. This is such a sad day. He was just a kid. Why didn't anyone see it coming? A last thought. Words are so important. You never know who you're talking to  even if it's a best friend, a spouse, a child what is really in their minds, so use your words carefully and kindly. Good-bye Kiddo

Ohio Rape Case

    Have you followed this case? Some will, probably more in Ohio. It will be those who are directly affected by this, all of the families. The town seems only to worry about the name they are getting instead of the victim. If they would only ask this of themselves and answer honestly, what if that was my daughter?

    This is my opinion. Many cases also convict the witness, the people who stood by, said nothing, did nothing, drunk or sober, they knew. In a very large case at Penn State and yes I know I'm talking miles apart here, but look who was fired for not doing enough, or turning their backs. Deservedly so,  especially when we're talking about children.
    So now again this is about children. Another form of bullying, assault, a demeaning action, brave football players, male species. What the hell is wrong with Sports when men or young men behave like this and feel they should get away with it by blaming the victim !!!!
   Sure she was drunk, so drunk she couldn't willingly participate. She was pulled apart!
     She was spread eagled by legs and arms while others watched! They did nothing. Why have they not been arrested too for depraved indifference????
   The town should come together in defense of the victim, and yes I know moms and dads don't want to believe their sons would do what they did. If any "thing" is to blame here, it's alcohol and no matter what, people need to pay for their crimes. This girl will live a long time with the shame of all of this and so must the perpertrators. If not, can you picture this? A bunch of big guys walking out of the court room, smiling, hugging, laughing and slapping one another on the back and saying to each other, hey man, we got off, that B----- almost got us.
Is that how you raised your son?

Think You know Kool? The Cool Factor is....

       Sure you think you know, and so do I, but do we? What makes the kool factor, really kool? Is it age, clothes, skin, hair, nails, who you hang with, what you watch, who you watch, how you watch or is it just you being kool. Pretending that nothing bothers you when so many things bother you, and trying to be in with a certain crowd? have good or poor grades? TELL ME PLEASE !!!
      I know kool when I see it, but that's my version, my age and how I think, but lets take a kid about sixteen. This is where life gets so difficult at times, trying to keep up with the other well known kool-ites. Does this sixteen year old have all the gadgets, electronics, money, fashion, friends,a car, allowed to go out with an extra long curfew. That's not Kool! That means mommy and daddy are too busy to notice, gave up, want to be in their own kool circles.
       We all, well most of us look at cars, and say, wow, so kool man. or sweet, but no one says, I wonder how many payments have to be made. We look at a new do and tell a person , wow, kool, looks great, then wonder, how much did that set him or her back. Then Birthdays and Christmas presents come. Kids admire what other kids get and say "kool", to each other while mom and dad wonder how they'll pay the bills because they too want their kids to feel included and feel as if they're kool, so now the parents become cool. Friends tell other friends, wow man, your dad is really kool to let you have that, or let you stay out so late. No your dad is dumb. His time to be kool and popular with kids is over with and now it's your turn.
        This is kool. Parents and whom ever may read this, yes you want and your kids want, not need, the most expensive clothes and sneakers to be kool. What is cool is a meeting of the minds, truth, and graduation;on time graduation. You shouldn't use a weeks pay to buy the best brand name sneakers, the name brand Jersey or a particular brand of clothes. If you could change your parenting all over again, how would you do it? Now, do it. It isn't too late. How many kids with Drug and alcohol issues are cool? Is yours' one of them? Just remember this, how many wanna be cool people are in jail? Let your child love him or herself, and you love them for the person they are inside, not who they pretend to be. One last thing to remember...when your child was born, who do you remember thinking they would be when they grew up? Not so kool now is it?

Turn a Dreary day into a Cheery Day-Brooklyn

       It's raining, it's pouring, the old man is snoring...remember that one. Well I woke to rain this morning and felt good. Somehow it reminds me of those fun days in Brooklyn when we'd see a rainbow and sunshine on the other side of the street.
We were allowed to go out in the rain and play, and no one got sick.
       Sometimes it meant playing marbles on the stoop,cards or jacks and other times it was just fun to sit and talk. Moms and dads were doing what moms and dads do and so were kids. Most of the boys would still play stick ball in the rain, just hang out, or if they were bored would come and tease the girls.
       When we'd talk it was about what we wanted to be when we grew up. That's something I don't hear from too many kids today. Maybe it's just me, but I do hear it from much younger kids about ten and under. So what happens as kids get a little bit older? Are they hearing too much dismal talk from adults, not always parents?
         We talk about too many things in front of the kids that instill negative thoughts and feelings and yes they do need truth in their lives, but not so much truth and not so early. Just because your life stinks now, don't pass it onto the kids. Go gently into their hearts. I keep hearing how resilient kids are;really? Why are there so many addictions, suicides, depressive kids on meds, kids killing kids. I could go on but it's too depressive.
         I check myself as a parent many times and ask what if I was them and try to think of another way to say or do something, affordable or not. Weather it's about weight, education, peer pressure (the worst) religion, sex, or dating we have to be very careful. They're are so many creeps out there just waiting to take our kids. No, I don't mean children and youth. I mean gangs, perverts, drug dealers, clubs and more. Be honest with them and don't let them learn something about you that's so horrible from a relative. You know how that goes. Relatives want to be smarter than their siblings too, so what do they do? They let themselves become available to your kids to talk and then the subject comes up....
      Oh I remember when, well did your mom or dad tell you when they got smashed or tried pot? Did they tell you about the friend they had who they went to parties with and...see what I mean. Many adults just want to look better in a kids eyes. Don't let that happen. You remain their role model. Remember what it was like when you were their age and think about an answer and how it will affect them before you open those lips. You thought this was going to be cheery? It can be.
    When your child comes home from school today, don't use the typical line, how as your day, ask something different and unusual? Want a cup of tea with me? Hot chocolate? Ask how they made it through the day and yes, you'll get a look and maybe a, what? What do you mean how did I make it through the day? Same as always I guess. So as mom or dad your answer can be as simple as, well I just wonder sometimes, well a lot of times how you handle teacher attitudes, stuff like that.  HOLD IT PARENTS! 
   If you say kids attitudes, your child will resent that and say why does it have to be kids, why can't it be teachers? Some teachers do have attitudes, but if you get to where your child is now, chances are they'll open up more, might say well mom I have pretty good teachers but this one "kid" always agitates me and I'm not sure what to do. I feel like I want to just punch his lights out...so now you're on board, and remember how your parents answered a question you didn't like the answer to. Find some middle ground.
    Today make it a cheery day when your child comes home, not dreary, not one of accusations but listening and sharing. Don't get physically too close(leaning into them) but give some space, talk and walk to a comfortable area, like the sofa-they'll follow. Try hard not to take anyones side, but look for solutions, and look for options so your child has other choices he or she may not think about. Okay people, I am gone now. Later.