Freddie Gray Protesters? Are You For Real?

       When is it going to stop? You protesters who loot, steal and destroy are not protesters at all. You are nothing but criminals, using a mans death as an excuse to carry out what you do normally or want to do to steal something you see in a store window. What did those store owners do to you or Freddie Gray? Not a thing? How does stealing affect a mans' death ? It doesn't.
      Real and honest protesters march, write letters, go to meetings, vote, form committees and make those who haven't done what they should have done accountable! If you feel store owners are for some insane reason responsible, then you take legal action, but those who smash windows, steal, set fires, bust up cars, beat up innocent people, cause destruction, are nothing but low life trash looking for  a reason, an excuse to make what people say about you TRUE ! You're not protesting or supporting the family of the victim here. You are just like the garbage that sit in prison waiting for  a trial and I don't care what your color is, but I do care what your actions are.
     What happened to that man was criminal neglect in my opinion. Because he stood and turned his head it was assumed he was faking, but how many times to we see on television, yes television, and in our own streets, that medical attention is sought right there and then when a prisoner needs help. Sometimes if its obvious it isn't severe in an obvious manner, a prisoner is taken to the hospital. This man looked to me almost cripple and should not have been moved until an ambulance arrived.
     Stop your lazy, lame ass excuses for pilfering and hoodlum terrorist acts, grow up and do something honorable.

Adoption Stipends, your Child Support

       Have you adopted? Thought about adopting? Yes it is wonderful that you are considering or close to adopting. Depending on how you're about to do this and if you will receive a stipend, please make sure you are really aware and have an attorney standing by.
      Laws change all the time. As parents you will be responsible for all that you know and all that you don't know.  Such as, you ask ?  Here are a few examples concerned with adopting children from foster care. Lets start with the problems these children bring with them, in that invisible suitcase. Not the one you see packed with clothes, but the one you will know all about as they relax, as they get to know, how you too really are and how they will start to becomes their true selves, who they really are.
       Each child is so very different even though they may have the same diagnosis. Remember, gender, age and family background, personalities, cultures, religions and experiences are individual. So when a caseworker or an agency, or children and youth tell you,"oh you know, she's Bi-Polar, so you know how that goes" as an example. Bull.
     In some ways that isn't any different than your own children and parents say, well they were all treated the same. If true, that's sad. One child may love hugs and the other doesn't. One child may prefer cartoons and another would rather play with blocks. Get the point? Same home, same parents, different personalities.
    Back to adoption. As children move in, become used to you, familiar with how they will be treated, consequences and all, your soft spots, your nature, and your forgiving heart, they start to peel away their own outer layers, like an artichoke. Defiance takes another look, no longer just saying NO! Now it's Fuck You, I don't have to listen to you, you're not my real mom or dad! Damages start to happen. Others properties are destroyed out of jealousy. After property damages, it becomes personal. Therapy isn't helping. Other children live in fear and parents don't sleep. no one sleeps as they used to, all because you decided to give a child a permanent home. Now it's as if your children are on the outside looking in and maybe now it's them who need therapy. FAIR???  Hell No , it isn't fair !
       Now school issues are also apparent with calls every day until finally suspension and your child, your newly adopted child is only ten or eight or twelve. No one has any idea how to help this child. Mental illness,, along with anger and jealousy has taken over. Of course that child wonders why his own parents don't want him or her, can't, won't, or not able because they too have mental health problems. That's how it travels , from one generation to another and one opposite gender to another. To sum it all up, this has now come all added up in the child you just adopted, times six generations.
      Okay now it's just you, this child, your other children and your other adopted children, a husband and maybe grandma is living there too. One night, one lonely quiet night this child's mind works overtime. He finds, or she finds matches, or a gun, or a bat or maybe just a pillow. Think the worst. Chances are it has happened. If not someone has been severely hurt and this child has been removed. Police are called and now you start to learn. You have to pay for that call. This child has been sent to different places as he or he is very dangerous, a new diagnosis, and now you have to pay child support. FAIR ????  Not to me. Why ?
     Yes, you made the choice to make that child now yours, at a stipend so low that you can't  afford to pay child support, but the state says you have to. So you may be labeled deadbeat parents. BULL !  Who ever would think you have to pay support for a child who you adopted and is a psychotic insane criminal ? No one, not one person. So we wonder why adoption sites have children waiting for years. Those sites show bio's that are only a few nice things. This is not the reality of these poor kids. I think the laws have to change about adoption and natural parents. If they are not able, don't care, won't take care of their kids, a red flag needs to be placed on their social security numbers to help with any kind of support.  Twenty five percent of disability need to be taken to go to the adoptive parent as is done with other parents own children
    Adoptive parents save states millions in care and this is the thank you, the respect they get back? Someone else and genetics sadly messed up this child up and now who has to pay? The only parents who would take him or her into their home, adding insult to injury and there will be a lot of injury. More than you will ever imagine, there will be.

   Unless you adopt a baby, you are receiving an invisible suitcase, invisible baggage overflowing with  unseen, unfelt at times, horrors. This is a harsh reality. I know of parents who feel adoption is a mistake, not the child, but the FINALITY of adoption. Many adopted children are back in foster care. That stipend? It goes back to pay for care. Please be careful, get an attorney and ask for all records prior to learning the hard way, the hardest of ways, the UNSEEN BAGGAGE.

Good luck is not enough to say. Prayer helps, but having  Warren Buffet as a realtive may help a lot more.
     
     

Think You know Kool? The Cool Factor is....

       Sure you think you know, and so do I, but do we? What makes the kool factor, really kool? Is it age, clothes, skin, hair, nails, who you hang with, what you watch, who you watch, how you watch or is it just you being kool. Pretending that nothing bothers you when so many things bother you, and trying to be in with a certain crowd? have good or poor grades? TELL ME PLEASE !!!
      I know kool when I see it, but that's my version, my age and how I think, but lets take a kid about sixteen. This is where life gets so difficult at times, trying to keep up with the other well known kool-ites. Does this sixteen year old have all the gadgets, electronics, money, fashion, friends,a car, allowed to go out with an extra long curfew. That's not Kool! That means mommy and daddy are too busy to notice, gave up, want to be in their own kool circles.
       We all, well most of us look at cars, and say, wow, so kool man. or sweet, but no one says, I wonder how many payments have to be made. We look at a new do and tell a person , wow, kool, looks great, then wonder, how much did that set him or her back. Then Birthdays and Christmas presents come. Kids admire what other kids get and say "kool", to each other while mom and dad wonder how they'll pay the bills because they too want their kids to feel included and feel as if they're kool, so now the parents become cool. Friends tell other friends, wow man, your dad is really kool to let you have that, or let you stay out so late. No your dad is dumb. His time to be kool and popular with kids is over with and now it's your turn.
        This is kool. Parents and whom ever may read this, yes you want and your kids want, not need, the most expensive clothes and sneakers to be kool. What is cool is a meeting of the minds, truth, and graduation;on time graduation. You shouldn't use a weeks pay to buy the best brand name sneakers, the name brand Jersey or a particular brand of clothes. If you could change your parenting all over again, how would you do it? Now, do it. It isn't too late. How many kids with Drug and alcohol issues are cool? Is yours' one of them? Just remember this, how many wanna be cool people are in jail? Let your child love him or herself, and you love them for the person they are inside, not who they pretend to be. One last thing to remember...when your child was born, who do you remember thinking they would be when they grew up? Not so kool now is it?

How Do We Protect our Kids from Both Genders

             How does anyone justify going after a kid. On the AOl screen one of the topics was, a twenty-four female flirted with a fifteen year-old boy at a gym. The boys mother did notice, but left the area. That gave Ms. Brashear time to take the boy to the tanning bed, undress herself and kiss the boy. She is now charged with a lewed act on a minor under sixteen.
       The mother came back just in time-or maybe not. I wonder why, once the mother saw this woman flirting with her son, why she didn't call a manager, or leave with her son, ask to write a complaint, but go to another part of the gym?
        We know more and more women today are just as likely to be predators as so called men are. I know, there's still a different spin on this. Boys are supposed to be flattered that an older woman flirts or goes even further. Not all boys.
       Brashears photo shows her red faced and teary-eyed. Her dumb comment was that she felt it was okay to just kiss him and she knew he was fifteen. What planet is she from? He wasn't her nephew, little brother or cousin? Is she really serious?
She needs a mental health eval for sure. Still, if he was my son...oh, and teh mother; would she take a different view if this was her daughter and it was a man working at the gym? We know the answer, don't we?