Is Your Paycheck Worth all That?

       What are you worth compared to the paycheck you receive? In whatever filed you're in, look around at the slackers who get the same amount of pay as you do. So why do they get away with it and why don't you say something about getting a raise to the boss or bosses. You don't have to mention names, but they will ask why do you think we should give you a raise.
       A simple explanation is: I have been with this company for three years and am doing as much as my counterparts and in many cases more than they do, and I do it with a conscience. I'm here to do a good job for this company and take pride in it, and again like my counterparts who don't. I'm on time, rarely miss a day if at all, do my work in a proficient manner and have a  positive attitude about my company and the work I do for them.
      Now they may ask you: So if you're doing that good a job, should we be expected to give everyone a raise who works as well as you do. Answer as honestly as you can. If you feel it's a yes, then say so and say why, such as: Yes I think so. For one think it shows how the company appreciates continued loyalty, success and people who work, really work and it may show those who don't to get off their what evers, stop just collecting a check, and do some serious work.
     What do you have to lose, your job? No, most people will not lose a job when they are only asking for a raise. You're only asking for  a show of more appreciation. If you're told:well if you don't like what we pay you, then we suggest new employment. Then it's up to you. But if that is the case, then give a polite thank you and let them know you intend to stay on...In the meantime seek other opportunities.

Kids Out of Place

       I spoke with a young boy today who is disillusioned with life in general. I even wents so far to ask him what should I write about, but I can't say what he did so I'll find another way.
       We as parents have to start so very early with teaching kids to stand up for themselves and not to confuse that with disrespect. Bullying in the school goes on daily. Self-esteem comes from so many things, but mainly starts at home, family, friends then peers in school. There's along line of people who want to get into your kids' head and destroy his or her feeling of self-worth. What price will they pay for feeling as if they don't have any value? Here is a list:
       Food addictions
       Verbal abuse
       Drug Addiction
       Physical abuse
       Choosing friends
       Spirituality
       Sexual abuse
       Education, and will they in turn treat others teh same way they have been treated? Please understand I'm not saying, although it may sound like it, that all people with low esteem issues came because mom and dad verbally abused them. Sometimes it's simply because  a kid will twist things in their own head, weight and measure what they see and hear and come out with what adds up to little self worth. That's why we need so desperately to teach them just how much they mean to us, to the world, to a friend and most of all to them selves.
   Try not to tell akid how handsome they are first or how smart. They're not mature enough to write understand the worth in that. Many might take it as, oh I'm only good enough if I'm handsome, but even by then if they do that, they are already on the road to somehow thinking they're not as good as... so just tell them, I'm glad I knwo you, I'm happy you're my son/daughter etc. I know it all sounds so dumb, but remember when you werte a kid? A family member and I were always compared, I was pretty, she was smart, so yes, I grew up knowing I was stupid and she knew she was just okay looking, until we really grew up. By then I was no longer pretty anyway, but she was still smart, and I decided on my own while I make a lot of mistakes, I am by far, not stupid.
    Instill the important values in a child. Treat others kindly, say hello, smile, give when you can give, be a very good friend, volunteer and love each other. I know there are many more so comment. I welcome them.
   Where would we be without kids?