Really ,a Best Friend?

       Lately I have been hearing about being someones best friend.  Over and over one after another I heard what best friends they were, yet one is gone, and it may not have been prevented no matter what.
        They brag on social media about being best friends. Really ? How is it you are a best friend to a person who has addictions and participate with them. You don't unless one of two things. You're not a best friend at all, not even close or you have your own addictions. Misery loves company.
       The people left behind are the real best friends, the ones who didn't participate with the addictions, but went out to eat or shop or just spend time, it was the parents, aunts, uncles, brothers and one very special cousin, maybe a few I didn't know about because other cousins are pretty good people too.
       Yet those best friends are seen once again on social media pages at the same places, no longer wounded but participating again with another who may also be addicted. When do we learn? When does it stop? Be a real best friend. Walk away from those places. Meet at a restaurant, a movie, your home, go bowling  and so much more in life that's available.
      Think about happiness, real, not under the influence happiness, or phony friends. Be a better friend, because your kind of friendship is a dime a dozen.

Friendship, at what cost & outsiders

       Friendship is very important to kids and as long as things are going well, well it's fine, but when something wrong happens, who will take most of the blame, responsibility and what happens to the friendship. Will fingers be pointed at one over the other? Definitely. That usually happens for a few reasons. First maybe one kid doesn't really belong in the community so as a newbie, most of it comes on that kid. If that kid has had issues before, it will be something such as, Hey stay away from that kid, now look what happens, taking responsibility away from one.
    Trouble breeds trouble and it usually takes two so tell your kids, tell them again and again, don't let one talk you into something which ends up negatively. Something else to think about: Sometimes kids want a Friend to prove a friendship, as in maybe there is jealousy, so misery loves company. Let your kids know that too if you get my drift. Friendship, no more?